I feel misunderstood by my partner in my business

 

Have you ever felt misunderstood in your entrepreneurial journey, especially by those closest to you? Many Boss Moms face the reality of not feeling fully supported by their husbands. Whether you’re just starting your business or have been at it for years, having a supportive partner can feel like a superpower. But what happens when your husband doesn’t seem to believe in what you’re doing?

First, let’s be clear: this isn’t about bashing our partners. We love them, but sometimes they just don’t get it when it comes to building and growing a business. It might be the small comments, the “Are you sure this is going to work?” look, or even outright questions about when you’re going to “get a real job.” These moments can make you feel alone or misunderstood.

So, how do you handle it with love, patience, and maybe even a bit of humor? Don’t worry, we’ve got this. Let’s dive in.

Why Your Husband Might Not Support Your Business

Before jumping to conclusions, let’s consider where your husband might be coming from. Here are a few reasons he might seem less supportive than you’d like:

• Fear of the Unknown: Entrepreneurship is full of unknowns. If your husband is used to a 9-to-5 structure, he might not fully understand what you’re doing, especially if money isn’t yet rolling in.
• Financial Concerns: If your business hasn’t reached significant financial goals yet, he might be focused on the family’s finances, viewing the venture as a risk.
• Different Expectations: Perhaps he envisioned a different role for you at home—like spending more time with the kids. Switching to entrepreneurship may take him some time to adjust to.
• Lack of Communication: Sometimes, they just don’t know the whole picture. If you’re working hard behind the scenes but not sharing your progress, he might feel left in the dark, leading him to feel misunderstood about why you’re so committed to this journey.

How to Handle It When Your Husband Doesn’t Support You

Talk It Out

First things first: have a heart-to-heart. Share why you’re passionate about your business, your goals, and your plans. Show him your strategy if finances are a concern, as seeing a clear plan can ease some worries. Open communication can help bridge the gap and reduce that misunderstood feeling.

Set Clear Expectations

Building a business takes time, and success doesn’t happen overnight. Share your milestones and timelines so he can see the progress. Setting realistic expectations can help prevent frustration and lead to a more supportive environment.

Create Boundaries

If his comments make you second-guess yourself, it’s time to create boundaries. Let him know how he can support you in ways that don’t make you feel misunderstood or constantly on the defensive. For example, say, “I’d appreciate your support, even if you don’t fully understand it yet.”

Celebrate Your Wins—Together

When you hit a milestone, no matter how small, celebrate it with your husband! Showing him the wins, like a new client or positive feedback, can help him see your progress, reducing that feeling of being misunderstood.

Find Support Elsewhere

It’s okay if your husband doesn’t understand every detail. That’s what the Boss Mom community is for! Surround yourself with people who get it. Joining mastermind groups and connecting with other entrepreneurs can make a world of difference.

What If Your Husband Still Doesn’t Support You?

If you’ve tried everything and your husband still doesn’t support your business, don’t take it personally, and don’t let go of your dreams. Sometimes it’s more about their own fears than your business. Here’s what to do:

• Keep Going: If you believe in your business, keep pushing forward. Success can eventually show him what’s possible.
• Connect in Other Ways: If he doesn’t understand your business, find other ways to connect—like through hobbies or family activities.
• Seek Outside Help: If his lack of support is causing strain, consider talking to a coach or counselor. An outside perspective can help you both feel less misunderstood and more connected.

You’ve Got This!

Even if your husband isn’t fully on board, you can still build the business of your dreams. When things get tough, remember you’re not alone. Your Boss Mom community is here to support you every step of the way.

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