This post is all about something super important that you might not even realize is affecting your business—your attachment styles in business! Yup, we’re talking about how your personal attachment style can play a huge role in the way you show up as a business owner, parent, and partner. And we’ve got the perfect guest to help us dive deep into this topic—Thais Gibson, co-founder of the Personal Development School and bestselling author of Learning Love.
Thais is an expert in attachment theory, and in this episode, we’re going to talk about how understanding your attachment style can change the way you do business. So grab your notebook, get comfy, and let’s dive in!
Before we dig into how your attachment style affects your business, let’s do a quick refresher on what attachment styles are.
In simple terms, your attachment style is the way you connect and interact in relationships, whether it’s with your partner, your kids, or even your business! There are four main attachment styles:
Now, you’re probably wondering, “How does this relate to running a business?” Well, it turns out these patterns don’t just show up in personal relationships—they sneak into your business relationships too! Let’s break it down.
If you have a secure attachment style, running your business probably feels pretty balanced. You’re good at setting boundaries, delegating tasks, and trusting others. You don’t need constant reassurance, and you’re resilient when things get tough. Entrepreneurs with a secure attachment style are usually pretty confident and able to handle the ups and downs without stressing too much.
If you identify with the anxious preoccupied style, you might notice that you over-give in your business. You want everyone to feel happy, so you say “yes” to everything, even if it means overworking yourself. Sound familiar? You might let coaching calls run too long, or feel guilty when you’re not giving 110%. The need for approval and fear of letting people down can be overwhelming.
But here’s the thing—you don’t have to overextend yourself to be loved or appreciated. Learning to set healthy boundaries in your business can help you feel more balanced and avoid burnout. You can still provide incredible value without sacrificing your own well-being.
If you lean toward dismissive avoidant, you might value independence to the point where you struggle to delegate or ask for help. You could be keeping people at arm’s length, avoiding emotional closeness, and feeling resistant to feedback or criticism. This attachment style can make you feel isolated in your business or hesitant to collaborate with others.
The truth is, business is all about relationships. It’s okay to trust others and ask for help! You don’t have to do it all alone. Finding ways to let people in, little by little, can strengthen your business and make things so much easier.
With a fearful avoidant style, you might have a push-pull dynamic going on. You want to grow your business, but you fear failure and rejection, so you hold back. It’s like you start strong, but the moment things get tough, you retreat and self-sabotage. Sound familiar?
The key here is recognizing that it’s okay to take small, manageable steps instead of going full throttle all the time. You don’t have to be perfect or fearless to succeed. Consistency is your friend.
So, how does your attachment style really impact your business? Well, it affects everything from how you lead your team to how you handle stress, conflict, and even growth opportunities.
For example, if you’re anxious preoccupied, you might find it hard to let go of control and delegate tasks, constantly feeling the need to oversee everything. On the flip side, if you’re dismissive avoidant, you might struggle to ask for help, leading to burnout or isolation.
But here’s the good news: understanding your attachment style is the first step toward changing it. Just like you can work on your mindset around money or success, you can shift your attachment style to be more secure, and that can make a world of difference in how you run your business.
Thais shared some amazing insights on how to move from insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, or fearful) to a more secure attachment style. This shift can completely transform the way you approach your business and your life. Here’s how you can start:
The best part about understanding your attachment style? It helps you build a business that feels aligned with who you are. When you understand why you react in certain ways—whether it’s in a client meeting, during a launch, or when setting goals—you can create healthier habits that support your growth.
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