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The 5 Essential People You Need in Your Life to Live to Your Potential

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We all know that building a successful life and business isn’t a solo journey. It takes a village—an empowering, uplifting village. In order to live your happiest and most successful life, you need a certain collection of people that will fulfill different needs. These are the people who will support, inspire, and challenge you every step of the way.

I believe Steve Jobs said we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time around, and this can be very true, and inspire us to be intentional about surrounding ourselves with people who are living the kind of life that we want to be living. But I believe there is a very specific set of people that will help us round out what we need to really create what we want out of life, and it’s not just about surrounding ourselves with people that are more successful than we currently are.

Here are the 5 people I believe you need if you want to be the best version of yourself


We need somebody behind us

The Importance of Being a Mentor

First up, we need somebody behind us—someone we can teach and guide. Being a mentor isn’t just about helping someone else; it’s also about feeling valued and important ourselves. When you mentor someone, you get the chance to see your own journey from a new perspective. You’ll be reminded of how far you’ve come, and you’ll feel a deep sense of fulfillment as you help someone else grow.

Building a Legacy

Think about it: mentoring is like planting seeds that will grow long after we’re gone. When we invest in someone else’s growth, we’re building a legacy that extends beyond our immediate achievements. Stories of successful mentorships often highlight the profound impact mentors have on their mentees, creating ripples of positive change. So, find someone who can learn from you and watch how it enriches both of your lives.


We need somebody next to us

The Proximity Mentor

Next, you need somebody next to you—a proximity mentor. This is someone who’s in the same space or stage as you. They get where you’re at because they’re right there with you. Having a proximity mentor means you both push each other to the next level. You share your struggles, celebrate your wins, and keep each other motivated.

Creating a Supportive Network

This kind of relationship is incredibly powerful. It’s about mutual support and understanding. Look for peers who are just as driven and passionate as you are. You can find these relationships in mastermind groups, networking events, or even online communities. Together, you’ll navigate the ups and downs of entrepreneurship, each of you growing stronger because of the other.


We need somebody ahead of us

Learning from Those Ahead

Now, let’s talk about somebody ahead of us. This is someone who’s a couple of steps ahead in their journey—someone you look up to and actually know. Having a mentor like this means you can talk to them, learn from their experiences, and gain insights that help you avoid pitfalls and accelerate your growth.

Aspiring to Greater Heights

Aspiring to greater heights becomes more attainable when you have someone to guide you. These mentors lead by example, showing you what’s possible and inspiring you to set higher goals. Seek out these relationships through networking, mentorship programs, or even reaching out to someone you admire. Their guidance can be the catalyst for your next big breakthrough.


We need a “No Matter What” friend

Unconditional Support

We all need a “no matter what” friend. This is the person who loves you unconditionally, no matter what crazy ideas you come up with or what mistakes you make. They are the ones you can be brutally honest with, even when it’s hard to be honest with yourself. They love you anyway, offering a safe space to be vulnerable and real.

Emotional Outlet

Having this type of friend is crucial. They provide an emotional outlet, allowing you to share your deepest fears and frustrations without judgment. Whether it’s a counselor, therapist, or just a trusted friend, this person is your rock. They’re there for you, ready to listen and support you through thick and thin. Without this outlet, the pressure can become overwhelming, so cherish this relationship and lean on it when you need to.


We need an “Overly Optimistic Friend”

Endless Positivity

Last but certainly not least, you need the overly optimistic friend. This person thinks you’re the bee’s knees. They see your potential and believe in you so fiercely that it almost annoys you sometimes! Their positivity is infectious, lifting you up even when you’re feeling down. They remind you of your strengths and encourage you to keep going.

Balancing Realism and Positivity

While it’s important to stay grounded, having someone who believes in you unconditionally can make all the difference. Their optimism acts as a buffer against self-doubt and fear. They help you see the silver lining in every situation and keep you motivated to pursue your dreams. If you’re lucky enough to have more than one of these people in your life, count your blessings and keep them close.


There’s your dream team…

So there you have it—the five essential people you need in your life to live your most successful life. A mentor behind you to remind you of how far you’ve come, a peer beside you to share the journey, a mentor ahead of you to guide the way, a “no matter what” friend to offer unconditional support, and an overly optimistic friend to keep you inspired. Surround yourself with these incredible people, and you’ll be well on your way to achieving your dreams and living a life of joy and fulfillment.

Tell me in the comments which of these key people you currently have in your life.

Dana Malstaff

Dana Malstaff

Dana Malstaff is the Founder of Boss Mom and creator Nurture to Convert.
She is a mother, author, speaker, messaging strategist, podcaster, blind spot reducer, and movement maker. She believes that too many brilliant moms are struggling to figure out how to grow their business while balancing all that is required to be a good mom, partner, and woman. So many moms are trying to grow their business using trends that feel inauthentic and aren't realistic for their inconsistent schedules. She has helped thousands of women become known for their brain and not their dance moves

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