Loving ourselves, finding the will to change, and chasing our goals can all be achieved if taken step by step. How do we find the will to change when we don’t love ourselves enough to believe we can do it? Why shouldn’t we dwell on the past or make predictions about the future? And why does everyone around us seem to be so negative?
In this episode, Bryan Falchuk talks about how he fought obesity and disease in his family while finding the power to be a good father and a supportive husband despite the hardships.
You can’t move your life forward if you don’t think you deserve it and are capable of it. -Bryan Falchuk
Things We Learned From This Episode
1. Without your “big why”, you won’t make a big change (08:20:09:40)
Finding your “big why” is not always about your desires and needs. Sometimes it’s about helping others. Even if you are the type who puts others first, you need to be a healthy human being both physically and mentally in order to be effective for others.
2. The dangers of being trapped in the past and being fearful of the future (15:13-17:00)
Traumatic experiences can trap you between the pain and loss of yesterday and the fear that everything will repeat itself again tomorrow. Since you can’t predict the future, there’s no reason to play a pessimistic scenario in your head, as it might never happen. You’ll end up wasting your energy on something that only happened in your imagination.
3. Society rewards negativity (17:40-19:00)
Many people refuse compliments and spend their time talking only about how bad their bosses are and how hard they work without being rewarded. Negativity is part of society and we spend too much time focusing on what’s going wrong with our lives.
The building blocks of an accomplished life are finding your true motivation, setting meaningful goals, and loving yourself. You have to ask the right questions about why you feel the way you feel about yourself, what would motivate you to do more, and what realistic goals make you excited. Your first answers will probably be wrong, but they will give you a direction. It takes time and a lot of introspection to find out the root of your suffering as well as what you can change to make you happy.
Bryan Falchuk is a best-selling author and life coach. He has been featured in publications like Inc Magazine, Chicago times, and LA Times, and he has been invited to share his story on over 100 radio shows and podcasts. His first book, Do a Day, has received several 5 stars ratings from authoritative publications and won the Literary Titan’s Silver prize. Bryan is also the host of Do a Day podcast and can be reached at http://www.bryanfalchuk.com/#contact.
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