Episode 367: Making Big Life Changes, Overcoming Challenges & Why We’re The Secret Ingredient of Our Children’s Happiness w/ Julie Ciardi
Sometimes life forces us to make scary choices and bold moves to get what we want. Going through this can be challenging and emotional. How does entrepreneurship make us more equipped to deal with challenges and differences with other people? What are some of the lessons that have come from going through a divorce, co-parenting, and remaining a family even after a split?
On this episode, founder of the Divorced Mommy Podcast, Julie Ciardi, shares her story and how she got through the rough times.
You have to be strong and focused on the kids without sacrificing who you are or your happiness. -Julie Ciardi
3 Things We Learned From This Episode
Why it’s so hard to walk away from something that isn’t bad (07:13 – 08:01)
Sometimes something is too comfortable for us to get out of. Whether it’s a job, a relationship, or a business, it’s harder to walk away from something that isn’t terrible than to get out of something that’s really bad. Sometimes we have to be forced into an uncomfortable place so we can make a decision.
The power of still wanting the best for our exes (24:22 – 25:52)
Many people are concerned about what happens when our former spouses inevitably move on with other people. When we care about our former spouse and trust that they will make good decisions, this isn’t something that should worry us. Through splitting up, we both get to learn what we really want. Our exes will find people that will make them happy, and that’s what we want for them.
How to be more compassionate (34:43 – 36:10)
There’s never perfect in anything— whether it’s relationships, motherhood or business. In any relationship, you will bump heads. The big thing is, we have to want to fix it and care about the happiness of the other person in the outcome as much as ours. We bump heads in relationships because we see the world differently, and we just have to be compassionate.
Whether we’re walking away from a job we’ve known for years, a relationship, or a business that isn’t making us happy, we’re sometimes going to be forced to make a scary change in our lives. We have to know that it takes work to overcome that, but things can be so amazing on the other side. As entrepreneurs, we already have a leg up. There’s so much mindset work and personal development that comes with the entrepreneurial journey that we’re more equipped to handle these moments. The more we do work on ourselves, the more compassion and responsibility we have in talking to other people. What we learn as entrepreneurs can be applied everywhere else in our lives and enrich all our relationships.
Julie is the founder of the Divorced Mommy podcast and blog. She is a mom of 3, divorced & remarried. She has a very modern blended family that she has worked very hard for. She took the leap from corporate, leaving a high paying multi-six figure executive salary to be an entrepreneur with 2 businesses. She launched a brick & mortar women’s boutique styling moms for their daily hustle called Haven Boutique
She launched her podcast to help divorced moms with their mindset & long term vision to create the life they want & their children need.
Find the podcast on iTunes and Stitcher. Go to https://divorcedmommy.blog/, and follow her on Instagram @divorcedmommy.
To read a blog post by Julie’s daughter about what parents should know about co-parenting, sign up for Julie’s mailing list.
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